Reaching Across the Jewish Divide

Have you ever had to explain to a non-Jew the difference between being Jewish and being Israeli? I’m not so patient, so next time I’ll just show them this first episode of the Jewish Reconnection Project.

Founder Todd Schetchter has other reasons for producing it: “It’?s meant to give viewers a sense of the diversity of Jews around the world and to let college age people express their own ideas about Judaism. Ultimately, we hope that helping disparate groups of Jews understand each other will make for a stronger, healthier Jewish community.”

It’s nothing terribly sensational, just two groups of young Jews talking about their lives, about how Israeli Jews take their Judaism for granted and the isolation of American Jews and why it’s not so easy to openly support Israel on American college campuses. The funny thing is that I had almost the same exact conversation last month with the Israeli three kids spending their summer as slaves camp counselors. In that gruff, no nonsense way Israelis have, 19 year-old Nitzan shrugged when I asked if her family was religious.
“Eh, why should we be? We are reminded of our Jewishness all the time. Only the Jews that make aliyah from somewhere else are religious.”

I’ll have to watch the future episodes of JRP with the hopes that these kids find more, not less, common ground…

And I Thought My Marriage Was Challenging

cartoonYnetnews brings us a most interesting love story: In Paris, Rabbi Jonathan Levy was more than happy to help Protestant minister Catherine Schtorkel explore her recently discovered Jewish heritage. They fell in love, and because the bride is halachically Jewish, the pair were wed in Jerusalem six weeks ago.

However, Schtorkel is keeping her day job. “I’m still a Protestant minister and I still believe in Jesus.”

Hmm. Levy’s congregation was so outraged by their leader marrying outside the faith that they fired him. “I wish my movement was as tolerant as it preaches others to be,” said the rabbi.

The couple is planning to move to Israel within the next two years, where they will presumably a more sympathetic community.

*Cartoon by Jordan B. Gorfinkel borrowed from JewishWorldReview.com.

“Lazy” Is a Virtue As A Triple Word Score

scrabbleWhat else to do on a rainy but break out the board games? I like to think of myself as a something of a spelling savant, not just because it makes me feel better that I almost failed organic chemistry my sophomore year of college but it always gives me an unfailing point of superiority over my husband. He once asked me if “really” had one “l” or two and I’ve never let him forget it.

However, because he is a cunning and merciless strategist, he has no problem beating the pants off me at Scrabble (and usually, getting my pants off is his winning agenda, hehheheheh.) The game has become a metaphor for our marriage; the struggle of the literary with the scientific, the fight over whose turn it is to do the dishes, the war-like single-mindedness of the masculine pitted against the expansive wonderment of the feminine, who revels in being able to lay “amalgam” on the board even if it’s less than 15 points.
Of course I’m not the first Jew to find deeper meaning in the game: Rabbi Naftali Silberberg espouses the kabbalistic underpinnings of those wooden letters on Chabad.org this week:

Every soul is dispatched to this world and is armed with a unique combination of letters/tiles. These “letters” are the person’s talents and abilities, strengths and weaknesses, the locale where the soul will operate, the soulmate it will marry, its health, physical appearances, and much more…It would be nice to be able to choose our tiles, but that is not an option. We must make do with what we are allocated.

Dig it. Silberberg goes on to say that we serve God best when we’re not so worried about the other players’ scores, but no one’s taunting him with a triple word score made with “zoo,” are they?

True Scrabble sycophants must watch Liz Dubelman’s “Craziest,” a brilliant VidLit describing her 321-point coup using the word and her personal connections to the deeper truths of the universe.

All I have to add is that the old school wood tiles rule so hard over the plastic jobbies they’re putting out now. And seriously, how cool are these? Is there anyone out there good enough with their aleph-bet to play the sacred game in Hebrew?

Torrential Rain as Opportunity

rainForgive me, friends, for the dwindling frequency of posting. Today, however, when I thought I might toast my tush on the beach while drinking a few beers for the first and last time this summer, our Creator has chosen to station a giant dumping weather system over the entire Southeast and so provide me with some time to catch y’all up on the Yenta. While I usually loathe blogs that detail the reasons for why its author hasn’t been around, I’m going to indulge in some boring self-referentia just this once:

Last weekend, the whole family attended a family bar mitzvah in Raleigh, NC, at Congregation Beth Meyer. Forrest the BM boy delivered his Torah portion perfectly, mazel tov!, and I was totally blown away by Rabbi Eric Solomon. He’s a young hip guy from Brooklyn with little kids, and his wife — also ordained — shares in the cantor duties for the congregation. Together they bring such an invigorating combination of tradition and presence to the bima; it was like having the cool kids teach Torah. Reb Eric made a point to explain each prayer and go over the melodies as part of the service, which those of us who didn’t go to yeshiva really appreciated.

Even my father-in-law noticed. “He didn’t try to make anyone feel bad that they didn’t know the Hebrew,” he said, and I know he was thinking back to his own childhood when reiterating the chants perfectly was more important than understanding what they meant. Reb Eric brought a relevance to Saturday services that felt almost shocking, but it’s something we could sure get used to ’round here.

At the sports-themed party that evening, Forrest got the requisite chair ride to the DJ’s truly awful “Yiddish medley” that might have downloaded from the Fiddler on the Roof soundtrack, but it was a special simcha nonetheless. Of course, my mother-in-law and I tore up the dance floor to ABBA’s “Dancing Queen.”

So then it was back to work, which I’m still just loving. My second issue just came out and I’m really pleased with the final product; the sales staff and our new graphic designer are such fine women. Putting together a magazine, interviewing subjects, hiring photographer and choosing products from businesses that I want to give a little free publicity feels like the role I’ve been working towards ever since I got my first editorial assistant job and realized that having a bachelor’s degree in creative writing might not mean I was doomed to wait tables for the rest of my life. Last week I served on a panel with a few other editors on “How to Write for Magazines,” and the journalism professor from Savannah State University has invited me to come speak to her classes this semester — it’s almost like I know what I’m doing. Almost. Sometimes, though, I still feel like the girl with the shaved head and hairy armpits living in her VW van armed with nothing but her journal and a chamsa for good luck.

I’ve been stressing out a little about my lesson plans for Shalom School, which begins next week. We had a staff meeting last week, and I was the only teacher whose classroom materials hadn’t arrived – I panicked at the thought of my charges blinking vacantly at me while I tried to teach them the “David Melech Yisrael” hand jive a cappella for two straight hours. But then there was talk about combining my kindergarten class with Wendy Cohen’s pre-K group, which would not only solve space issues but create a fun synergy, since Wendy’s just super cool and we’d have a big raucous group who could create a thunderous “Hinei Mah Tov.” So no worries, though I was firm that I still want my holiday rug.

And wait, the commitments keep on coming: By far, the most exciting thing I’ve been invited to be a part of lately is Do You Hallelu? in Atlanta, an interactive concert presented by Synagogue 3000 starring legendary Jewish musicians Debbie Friedman, Theodore Bikel, kosher gospel singer Joshua Nelson and Neshama Carlebach. The brain child of Craig Taubman, this veritable Jewlapalooza will be huge – 3500 people! I’m going to be doing some “live blogging,” which I thought entailed me sitting in the audience quietly recording my thoughts, but I found out last week that they want me onstage. I can’t imagine why me at my laptop would be that compelling, especially if I’m sitting in my underwear and one of my husband’s tattered fraternity shirts like I am now, but I’m sure the brilliant folk of Craig N Co have something in mind.

I’ve also been distributing the latest issue of American Jewish Life to Savannah’s synagogues and the JEA as a favor to editor Benyamin Cohen. I’ve got one for you in the trunk of the minivan (along with the current issue of skirt!) or, if you’re not on my route, check out the online version.

Let’s see, what else? The JEA has asked me to teach a “Klezmercize” exercise class to the seniors, and as much I would love to, I can’t find a spare hour once a week during the day to do it. It’s a shame, ’cause I have some Jewish music that’ll kick those yentas tushies (Hip Hop Hoodios, anyone?) and my mother-in-law would absolutely love it (Come to think of it, maybe all the dancing we’ve been doing ’caused the rain?) I haven’t said “no” yet, but I only have 24/6 like everyone else, y’know?

There are also the matters of both children starting school this week, our new mostly well-behaved dog Clarabell (she looks a lot like this. Cute, cute, cute), Thursday’s deadline for the October issue and the upcoming Holy days. There’s always more to do (I just remembered El Yenta Boy needs a new tie for synagogue) but while earlier in life I might’ve collapsed under the weight of so many responsibilities, opportunities and activities, mostly I’m just so grateful for such a crowded plate. (Except when I’m not, and then no one better ask me to so much as tie their shoes for them.)

So this rainy day of “nothing to do” can’t be perceived as anything but yet another blessing. Hope your Labor Day weekend is as blissfully un-laborious.